The Diary of Anne Ku

9 June 2000 Friday heavy rain

GIVERS AND TAKERS

What kind of friendship is it if it is one-sided?

Implicitly we assume that a friendship is reciprocal. The giving and the taking are reciprocated. But what if time after time, there is nothing you can give to someone who appears to have everything? Yet you value that person's friendship. Do you feel guilty that you keep taking from this person? The person's time, hospitality, ideas, wisdom, favours, etc. Or do you feel that you are giving the person the privilege of your presence, your listening, and the honour of your visit?

In my youth, I met many kind folks who gave me their time, wisdom, and hospitality. I didn't think I would ever have the opportunity to repay them, for they were older and established. Instead, I told myself that reciprocity was circular. I give to you. You give to him. He gives to her. She gives to them. Eventually, "what goes around, comes around."

In cyberspace, I have the opportunity to thank all those who have given me so much in my travels. And I hope, the takers will realise that their time to give will come.

yesterday

tomorrow

A friend in need is a friend indeed